Kupedza roorano neipamuganhu hunhu kusagadzikana.
Makore maviri apfuura, ndakaroora mukadzi wandaifunga kuti aive akakwana kwandiri. Tainyanya kudanana, uye ndainzwa ndiri padhuze nekubatana naye zvekuti ndakaziva ipapo ipapo kuti ndaida kumuroora. Asi tichangoroorana, zvinhu zvakazoipa
Akatanga kuita zvekupenga, uye akatanga kuita zvechisimba: akandikandira zvinhu uye akandirova pazvinhu zvidiki. Ini ndinofunga ane muganhu hunhu hunhu kusagadzikana. anokwana zviratidzo zvese. Ndazvinzwa BPD chirwere cheupenyu hwese. Ndomuramba here?
Unofanira kuramba mumwe wako here?
Nehurombo, hapana mhinduro iri nyore kune ino . Kunyangwe iwe kana kusarudza kusarambana nemumwe wako chisarudzo chikuru chako, uye hapana anogona kukuudza zvakakunakira. Nekudaro, hezvino zvimwe zvinhu zvekufunga nezvazvo.
Kutanga, hauna kutaura kana mumwe wako akawanikwa aine chirwere chemuganhu. Panogona kunge paine akasiyana mamiriro achikonzera zviratidzo zvaunotsanangura, uye iye anofanirwa kuwana kuongororwa kwakakwana kuti anyatso kuona zviri kuitika.
Chinhu chechipiri chekuchengeta mundangariro ndechekuti chikamu chakakura chevanhu vane muganhu hunhu kusagadzikana vanopindura kurapwa. Naizvozvo, usati wafunga nezvekurambana, zvinogona kuita zvine musoro kuona kana mukadzi wako achida uye achikwanisa kutora chikamu mukurapa kweBPD izvo zvinogona kudzikisa zviratidzo zvake.
Usagara uchifungidzira Zvakaipisisa
Kunyangwe mukadzi wako akaonekwa aine hutachiona hwemuganhu uye imba yako iri mumatambudziko, haufanire kufunga kuti mamiriro acho acharamba akanyanyisa.
Izvo zvakakosha kuti uzive kuti kunyangwe pasina kurapwa, kufungidzira kwemunhu ane BPD kunogona kubatsira zvakanyanya. Vanhu vazhinji vanoonekwa kuti vane muganhu wehunhu hunhu havagone maitiro echirwere ichi kwemakore mashoma chete.
Nekudaro, kana mukadzi wako aine chirwere, izvi hazvireve kuti mutongo weupenyu hwese. Therapy inogona kubatsira kuvandudza hutano hwake, kana inogona kuzvivandudza yega.
Chekupedzisira, vanhu vane muganhu hunhu kusagadzikana kazhinji vane zviratidzo zvakanyanya zvakanyanya kana hukama hwavo huri mumatambudziko. Kushanda kuvaka hukama hwakadzikama kunogona kubatsira mumwe wako kuti awane kugadzikana kwepamoyo.
Ehe, iwe unofanirwa kufunga nezve kana iwe uchida kuita izvi. Iwe chete ndiwe unogona kuita sarudzo iyi, asi unogona kufunga kuzviita uchibatsirwa nachiremba wako, kana zvichibvira.
Kurambana kubva kuBPD (borderline personality disorder)
Unoratidza sei kumutongi kuti munhu ari pamberi pako, anoita kunge akapenga uye akapusa, anozoita hasha kusvika pasingafungidzirwe paanobva mudare redzimhosva?
Vanhu vane BPD vanhu vane hunhu hukuru kusagadzikana kwemanzwiro, kusagadzikana mukuzvionera wega, muhukama pakati pevamwe uye nekushamisika kunoshamisa uye kwakamisikidzwa, kuwedzera kune zvimwe zviratidzo uye nekusiyana kwakasiyana kwemunhu. (kunzwa kusingagumi kwekusava nebasa, kugara uchichinja-chinja uye munguva pfupi, kusatsamwa kusingaenzaniswi, maitiro ekuzvibata: doro, zvinodhaka, kudhakwa, kutenga, kutyaira zvisina hanya, hupombwe, nezvimwewo) , kuzvikuvadza, kuzviedza pachako, hukama hwehukama pakati pevamwe, nezvimwe.
Ivo vanhu vanotambura zvakanyanya mukati uye vanoita zvakanyanya (ivo vane dichotomous: zvese kana hapana, dema kana chena, nguva dzose kana kusamboita.), Shandisa maitiro kudzikisira kutya kwemukati kuburikidza nenzira dzinozvikuvadza ivo nevamwe.
Ivo vanotambura zvikuru: varoorani, vakadzi, vanin'ina, uye vabereki, uye ava vanogona kutambura nekukosha kwakakanganisika kwepfungwa (kushushikana, kushushikana, nezvimwewo) .
Mumamiriro ezvinhu apo munhu akabatwa asingade kuita chirongwa che psychotherapeutic uye psychopharmacological kupindira nehutano hwepfungwa uye kana hupenyu hwevamwe huri panjodzi, matanho anotorwa anogara ari ekudzivirira ekupedzisira.
Panofanirwa kuve nematanho ekumanikidza kuyedza kuisa varwere ava kurapwa kwepfungwa nekuti vazhinji vavo vanoziva izvo zvinodiwa, asi vatye kuti havazokwenenzverwa.
Matipi
ZANO 1: Ukasarudza kurambana, zviite zvakasimba uye nekukurumidza. Usambofa wakaratidza kushaya simba nekuti ichaita chero chinhu kukudzosera kunyangwe nekuedza kuzviuraya. Unogona here kugara kure nekumanikidza kwake?
ZANO 2: Kana iwe wakanaka, chenjera. TLP inogara ichifadza pavanenge vachigadzirira kurwisa. Ive nekuchenjerera kana ivo vakanaka nekuti iwe uchazviwana iwe uri mune chinzvimbo cheutera, uye ivo vachakurova iwe. Ramba wakanangana nekurambana kwako uye usadonhedza hunyengeri hwavo kana kushushikana kwepamoyo kwavachazoshandisa pasina mubvunzo.
ZANO 3: Iva wakagadzirira kudzivirira vana vako kubva kuhuropi. Kana mwana wako adzoka kwauri, uchafanirwa kuteerera kuvana vako vachikuudza zvinhu zvese zvinotyisa zvawakarehwa neTLP yako pamusoro pako. Iwe unofanirwa kuita zvakasununguka sezvazvinogona uye usambofa wakataura pasi kuvana vako nezvewawakambove mudiwa naye, asi tsanangurira kwavari zvinoitika kana uine dambudziko apo mwana wako ari kushanya newaimbova mukadzi.
ZANO 4: Bhadhara gweta rinokwanisa kubhadhara uye rinozokudzivirira zvine simba, nekuti maTLP ndeevanyepi vezvirwere, vanyengeri, uye vangangokutsamwisa vobva vakuzivisa zvenhema, vachishandisa matare kuti vakudzikise. Vanowanzoita zvekukurumidza uye vanobatwa ipapo ipapo. Vanobatwa mukunyepa kwavo. Edza kugara uchitaurirana neemail pachinzvimbo chekufona, uye mahofisi ekutaurirana zvine chekuita nezvevana zvekuti zvichiri kunyorwa kuitira kana uchizoda kuzvishandisa mukuzvidzivirira kwako rimwe zuva.
ZANO 5: Gadza mitemo nemirau. Mitemo uye chimiro zvakafanana neKryptonite yeTLP. Namatira kumitemo uye usamboityora, kana iwe unenge uine chikonzero chakakwana chekumhan'ara. Ratidza mwana wako kuti iyo TLP haina kuvimbika nezviito zvayo. Iva dombo kumwana wako, uye yeuka kuti ivo vanosungirwa kuve neTLP muhupenyu hwavo nekusingaperi.
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